Checklist of Do’s and Don’ts for Divorce

Divorce Do's and Don'tsIf you are about to get a divorce or just wondering about the divorce process, you may want to learn more about it.

Divorced friends may have told you that divorce was the worst thing that ever happened to them. Others, for various reasons, tell you it was the best thing that ever happened to them. The range of emotions may go from deep feelings that your spouse has betrayed you to joy that you are getting a new start and ending what has been a very troubled relationship.

A potential client told us that she wished there were a checklist of do’s and don’ts for divorce. Divorce has an emotional side and a legal one. We consolidated these two areas and here is our list of 8 do’s and 8 don’ts for divorcing people.

Divorce DO’s

1. Although it may be extremely difficult, be honest and upfront with everyone from the beginning of the divorce process. This means be reasonable, be cooperative, don’t be untruthful. In situations where you do not believe you can cooperate for a good reason, talk with your attorney about what to do.

2. Think about your health and your well-being. From time to time, do something nice just for yourself—give yourself a day off work and plan an activity, perhaps a golf date or visiting a museum.

3. Become as knowledgeable as you can about the divorce process. The more you know, the better questions you can ask and the surprises will be fewer.

4. Make sure you are aware of your financial situation and have all the necessary documents handy. If there is something out of line, unpaid credit cards, for example, do everything you can to get your financial affairs in order. Don’t keep bills in both of your names as this can wind up costing you considerably.

5. Document. Document. Document everything that happens. This is your mantra in the divorce process. It will save you many headaches.

6. If there are children, remember to spend quality time with the kids. They are not getting a divorce and they really need the attention of both parents at what is likely an unsettling time for them.

7. Realize that you need a lawyer and it should be a different one from your spouse.

8. You don’t need social media. Many divorcing people regret they didn’t heed this bit of advice.

Divorce DON’Ts

1. Don’t be negative about your soon-to-be former spouse in front of your children. This can be difficult especially when your “ex” disappoints the children, but try to be the better person and hold your tongue.

2. Don’t destroy evidence. This goes back to being truthful and can get you in a lot of trouble if your actions are discovered.

3. Don’t give up hope for the future.

4. Don’t get involved in a rebound relationship. This could be used against you especially in a child custody battle.

5. Don’t try to stop children from seeing their parents. If you are truly afraid for their safety, talk to your lawyer about what to do.

6. Follow the rules of the court. If you don’t think you can do that, talk to your lawyer. You may still have to do what the court asks, but your attorney may have some other ideas.

7. Forget about all the things you planned to make your former spouse look like a jerk. You may be the one ending up looking immature.

8. Don’t get greedy.

If you are planning a divorce or dissolution, or you find out your spouse has started proceedings, you should talk to an attorney to discuss your legal options.

Our family law attorneys are very familiar and experienced with Ohio domestic relations law and will be happy to help you and suggest the best path for you to follow. We realize the emotional aspects of divorce and the difficulties you may be going through.

Please contact us by calling 1-888-774-9265, chat with one of our 24-hour live chat representatives or send us a website message.

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